Equal Independence, Mutual Dependence

"In the true marriage relation, the independence of the husband and wife is equal, the dependence mutual, and their obligations reciprocal." - Lucretia Mott, nineteenth-century women's rights activist 


In any relationship, marriage or otherwise, the words 'equal', 'mutual', and 'reciprocal' go a long way in bringing people together. Respect is necessary, kindness is mandatory, and compassion always makes relationships better. The important part is to remember that the effort must come from all people involved.

It has often been said that marriage is a 50/50 deal. That may not be enough. It may be necessary to give a little more than 50% sometimes. It would be wise to look at relationships more like a 75/75 deal instead. There will be times when one person needs to give more in order to help and support the other person in the relationship. There may be an overlap of effort at times but when one cannot give their best efforts, usually the other person can do a little extra to help pick up the slack. It is not a competition of who gives the most; it is a combination of everyone's strengths in order to have the best experience together. It can be done. Unconditional acceptance of people just as they are can help to begin the process.

Relationships take effort from all parties involved. People are human and make mistakes from time to time. When we are in a relationship where we are comfortable and feel safe, we are then able to be ourselves without fear. In any true relationship, we are uplifted and supported with love and concern.

Today I will respect and appreciate the relationships in my life. I am grateful.

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