No Victims

"Above all, be the heroine of your life, not the victim." - Nora Ephron, director, producer, and writer

I lived life like a victim for many years. It never even occurred to me that I could be a heroine of any kind. I saw my life as one big disappointment and I would spend my days complaining to anyone who would listen. It never served any purpose to live this way, but I wanted any kind of sympathy I could get. It was a sad way to live, but I couldn't seem to do it any other way.

Well, no more living like a victim for me. I've come to realize that everyone goes through difficult life experiences - challenging living conditions, abusive relationships, financial woes, strained family dynamics. I've learned to accept people as they are just as I've learned to accept myself exactly as I am. I don't need to talk about all of the terrible things that have happened in my life that could label me a victim. Now I enjoy sharing my life experiences with my friends, speaking from the heart, and being as honest as I can be.

I don't want to be a heroine today nor do I want to portray myself as a victim. Today I just want to be me. This has been a great transition for me in living life on life's terms. I'm so glad to have learned this lesson.