To Be Happy...

"To be happy with a man you must understand him a lot and love him a little. To be happy with a woman you must love her a lot and not try to understand her at all." - Helen Rowland, journalist

This is very cute. It made me smile when I read it. I'm not sure how true any of it is, but it's entertaining and fun to think about.

Love is the term that got my attention when I read this. In my humble opinion, I don't think it matters whether you're a man or a woman - I believe that everyone wants to be "loved a lot". I also believe that everyone wants to be understood as well. It's not always easy to deal with this dilemma. Sometimes, people don't always understand me and I get extremely frustrated. When I'm frustrated, I'm not very lovable. I seem to focus too much on proving I'm right. Then, if I'm still not understood, I get angry and the situation deteriorates further. It all stems from my unhealthy desire to always be understood.  I don't think this is the way it's supposed to be for any of us.

I'm beginning to understand that I can be happy without proving I'm right all of the time. I don't need to prove myself everywhere I go. I'm here because God created me and gifted me with this life. I'm letting go of the need to be understood. I will always want to be loved but I recognize that not everyone is going to love or even like me. The point is that God will always love me. There is nothing greater than that. It was fun reading the above quote, but I'm glad I'm not obsessed with trying to figure out how to be happy. Today I can choose to be happy right where I am. Thank you God for loving me so much!