The Art Of Tact

"Tact is the art of making people feel at home when that's where you wish they were." - Ann Landers, columnist

This sounds like something an advice columnist would say to someone asking about tact, doesn't it? I can remember times in the past when I've welcomed guests into my home even though I was hoping they wouldn't come over. I'm sure we've all had similar experiences. And I'm sure we've all handled these experiences differently.

I haven't had to use this kind of tact in a very long time. I think it has something to do with the people I'm choosing to hang out with now. I've gotten better at choosing positive friends. Not everyone can be in a great mood all of the time, but I've started surrounding myself with people looking to live in the solution today rather than the problem. I spent many years living in my problems. I loved the chaos and the drama. I wanted people to feel sorry for me and I projected that "victim" personality everywhere I went. I wasn't a lot of fun to be around most days.

By surrounding myself with enlightened friends who share their wisdom with me, I've found myself enjoying the company of everyone most of the time. I don't find myself wishing that someone would go away anymore. The love I feel in my heart for those I meet each day has taken over. This hasn't happened because I'm so wonderful; it's happened in spite of my tendency to judge and avoid. I'm truly grateful to my friends for helping me release the need for tact and for showing me how to embrace all who cross my path now. They are a gift from above. Thank You God!