Backbone Of Leadership

"The leadership instinct you are born with is the backbone. You develop the funny bone and the wishbone that go with it." - Elaine Agather, businesswoman

Clever statement. I know I've developed a funny bone but I'm not sure about that wishbone!

There have been times in my life when I've been less than confident in myself. It's felt as if I didn't have a backbone at all. I would try to take a stand for something I believed in but would back off in the end. I think that had something to do with my people-pleasing instinct. Years ago, I wanted people to like me. That's a normal desire in most cases but for me it became overwhelming. I would usually stay in the background and not express my point of view for fear that I might offend someone in the group. My fear kept a wall up around me that even I couldn't seem to break through.

Today, I approach things differently. I'm not sure if it's because I'm older now or if I've just come to realize that my opinion does count. Maybe it's a combination of both. But for now, I'm not afraid to share my thoughts with my friends, even if I disagree with the general consensus. I've learned to express my thoughts and opinions in a kind and loving way. I just speak for myself, I do my best not to force my opinion on others, and, most importantly, I still love and accept my friends for who they are even if they disagree with what I'm saying. If I'm asked to be a leader in some way, I do my best and leave the results up to God. As long as I'm relying on my Higher Power I know I'm going to be okay. With this approach, I don't need a wishbone, to be sure.

So, here's a great BIG thank you to all of my friends who accept me ALWAYS, no matter what opinions I express from time to time. I am truly grateful to you and for you all. Now let's develop that funny bone just a little bit more!