Blissful Gratification

"My children cause me the most exquisite suffering. It is the suffering of ambivalence: the murderous alternation between bitter resentment and raw-edged nerves, and blissful gratification and tenderness." - Adrienne Rich, poet 


The word "suffering" has a negative connotation, but when raising children it can sometimes feel as if suffering is involved. I think it is more about the degree of emotions that go with raising children. There is a wide variety of highs and lows and it all comes as a result of loving our children so much.

The quote above uses strong verbiage. I don't think the words "children" and "bitter resentment" go hand in hand but I understand the idea of ambivalence when trying to teach our children how to be the best that they can be. The strong bond that is formed between parent and child brings with it strong feelings and emotions. Children may not always understand what they are learning but it is a parent's job to give everything they have to providing the lessons for life.

I have two children whom I love more than anything. They are adults now and they don't always make the choices that I would make for them. But I love them enough to allow them to live their lives. I will always be here for them, to offer suggestions, to listen to what they have to say, to love them with all of my heart. They have taught me lessons I would never have learned anywhere else. I would not be the person I am today if they hadn't been a part of my life. I just pray that they know just how much they mean to me. I continue to do my best to let them know that this is my truth and always will be.

Blessings to all of you who have children. May we all continue to do our best in leading them with grace and dignity. I am grateful.

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